I recall this story in the context of the killings at Virginia Tech last week.
I
am not claiming that we averted a similar tragedy but I have to wonder
if my Scout's behavior could have escalated to more serious actions if
it went unchecked or unchallenged.
Several years ago I was approached by an upset parent who's son had been physically attacked by another Scout during an outing I was unable to attend.
After speaking with the Scouts involved it was clear that the incident was a physical overreaction to verbal provocation. Both Scouts obviously needed to modify their behavior. I was especially concerned about the Scout who physically attacked the other because this was the second time he had been a part of a physical confrontation.
This Scout was a high achiever (he would go on to become an Eagle) but had clear signs of being unable to control his actions. Worse yet he felt perfectly justified in reacting physically and said that he would do it again in the same circumstances. He was intelligent and mature enough to know that this was not the way to handle problems yet his anger caused him to see it as the only course of action he had left.
I shared these concerns with his father and told him that I would not allow the Scout to participate in any other functions until he had undergone some counseling.
Predictably his father first felt I was overreacting to a "boys will be boys" incident. But my decision was not based on finding fault - it was based on my concern that his son could probably use some assistance sorting out what was causing these problems. The boy was miserable and conflicted, he was clearly having some difficulties. Frankly I was afraid for him.
In the end his father agreed, the counselor reported that they were successful in assisting the Scout and things went back to normal. The two Scouts managed to get along and both went on to become Eagles.
What can Scoutmasters learn from this story and the Virginia Tech tragedy? read on...
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